Kiss Me Like a Stranger: My Search for Love and Art – Gene Wilder

When I saw this book for sale, I did a double take and decided to take a closer look as a fan of the late film star Gene Wilder (1933-2016). I previously watched interviews with Wilder wherein he discussed his life and the entertainment industry, but I was curious to read his words in this autobiography which is an interesting look at his life. I had no expectations before reading the book and reminded myself that life behind the camera is far different from when they are rolling. And that holds true in this book which I enjoyed reading. The book ends many years before Wilder’s death on August 29, 2016, at the age of eighty-three due to complications from Alzheimer’s disease but his life was from ordinary as readers will learn.

Wilder’s story begins in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, during the 1930s. And from the beginning, we learn a few things about his family life, including the health issues of family members which reappear later in the story. At school things are surreal as his Jewish background is noticed. His experience gets off to a rocky start in a way that left me both speechless and shaking my head. At home, his relationship with his mother is both strong and complicated and later in the book, as Wilder talks to his therapist Margie, we see how his early life had long-lasting effects. As he matures, life takes him in different directions, and I found the section about his time in the United States Army remarkably interesting. It is an aspect of his life overlooked but it was a crucial step in the direction which led to the silver screen. And when he is no longer in the possession of Uncle Sam, a move to New York City opens Pandora’s Box.

While the Gene Wilder we know is being constructed, behind the scenes, he was going through his own growing pains which included multiple marriages. In fact, I am amazed at the number of marriages but also understood why he walked down the aisle several times. And like a gentleman, he does not have a bad word for any of them. However, that does not mean the relationships were without their share of complications and drama. His stepdaughter Katie proves to be a challenge in her younger years before transforming into a mature woman focused on her life. Their ordeal is only one of the struggles Wilder faced as his fame increased. But anyone who is familiar with his life is aware of the dark clouds hovering over the story. And as each approached, I could feel the vibe shift as the issue of mortality is placed front and center.

After his divorce from second wife Jo, Wilder finds himself a bachelor again and meets the woman who would change his life in ways no one expected. In 1975 a new comedic series called Saturday Night Live made its debut, and one of the brains behind the success was a young woman named Gilda Susan Radner (1946-1989). And when she crosses paths with the comedic actor Wilder, the stage is set for their relationship and marriage. However, neither was instantaneous and what Wilder explains is interesting. And the incident which triggers their marriage gives credence to the saying that things happen for a reason. The elephant in the room soon makes its presence felt as Radner becomes sick with the cancer which took her life. Wilder discusses her illness, their battle to fight it and his own struggles in caring for her as the disease took its toll. It is a somber moment in the book and Wilder pull no punches regarding the impact of her death. But healing, a fresh start and his own battle with mortality are waiting in the wings. His fourth wife Karen Boyer would become a source of happiness and strength until his death in 2016. As the book concludes, it is the end of a journey we have taken with Wilder, a young boy from Milwaukee he went on to become a Hollywood great alongside frequent collaborators Mel Brooks and the late Richard Pryor (1940-2005), the latter of which Wilder makes clear was a not a close personal friend. Readers anticipating a lengthy discussion about Pryor will not find it here, but the author recalls aspects of their working relationship which are still interesting. Nonetheless, this autobiography is good and an invaluable source of information about Wilder as all it comes from the man himself.

ASIN ‏ : ‎ B003G83U50
Publisher ‏ : ‎ St. Martin’s Press, April 1, 2010

Pandemic 1918: Eyewitness Accounts from the Greatest Medical Holocaust in Modern History – Catharine Arnold

On November 11, 1918, an armistice was signed at Compiègne, France, ending the hostilities of World War I (1914-1918). The war formally ended with the Treaty of Versailles on June 28, 1919. Millions of people had perished in the war but there was another killer in 1918 which spread across the globe undetected until its horrifying effects became hauntingly clear. It is known as the Spanish Flu, a virus of the H1N1 influenza strain. During the final year of the war, this silent killer wreaked havoc across the globe as health officials and politicians struggled to contain the deadliest health epidemic in modern history. Author Catharine Arnold takes us back to 1918 when the Spanish Flu changed world history.

The book begins in September 2007, the body of Sir Tatton Benvenuto Mark Sykes (1879-1919) was exhumed at a cemetery in Sledmere, Yorkshire, England. The lead lined coffin holding his remains had helped preserve body tissue scientists believed to hold critical clues about the Spanish Flu. And to understand why they are in the trenches in the fight against influenza, we must step back to the year that changed the world which is the focus of this book which left me speechless. Prior to reading Arnold’s book, I knew that the story would be challenging, primarily due to the subject matter. The cover removes any doubt as to what readers can expect within and once the story begins, it does not let up as she takes us through one of the darkest periods in world history.

Today we have the benefit of advanced medicine and the internet, tools which aid in the rapid recovery from influenza. And although the virus does claim lives each year, the number of deaths is significantly lower than it was in 1918. And as the book progresses, it becomes clear why the virus claimed millions of lives. Further, the virus did not discriminate and touched every sector of society. Author John Steinbeck (1902-1968) and silent film era star Myrtle Gonzalez (1891-1918) are two examples of the notable figures impacted by the virus’s spread. As doctors struggle to understand and contain the virus, it shows no signs of abatement, and the experiences of those who survived are part of what makes this book fascinating. Their stories are vivid, and they pull no punches about their ordeals which leave a chill in the air as the grim reality of influenza settles in. For all of them, it was a trip to hell and back as they stared at death in the mirror. The horror or the plague is compounded by the spread of the virus both unknowingly and unwittingly and I could feel the sense of helplessness which consumed doctors, nurses, city officials, and military personnel as the virus continued to claim victims. The parallels between the Spanish Flu and the Covid-19 epidemic are eerie, but today we are in a far better position than the world’s inhabitants in 1918. However, readers will note the discussion regarding face masks which were controversial and integral as both pandemics ran their courses.

The book is a roller coaster ride through 1918, and I can only imagine how it affected those who survived. We have some of their words here, but there were scores of people who fell victim to the Spanish Flu, survived, and moved forward with permanent scars and dark memories. But just when you think the story of the Spanish Flu is finished, the author takes us to Hong Kong in 1997 where a three-year-old child named Lam Hoi-ka falls victim to influenza, sparking fears that the deadly virus was returning. The concerns of health officials were valid as readers will see in the story. In hindsight we know that a new plague did not happen, but Hoi-ka’s death did play a crucial role in scientists understanding the influenza virus and its spread to humans from animal species. And this is an important tool which will help physicians confront future pandemics. And as we continue to plan for future events, we can use the Spanish Flu as an example of where we should never return. The book is beautifully written, and while grim in content, it does contain valuable historical information. Despite the subject matter, I found it easy to read and I could not put it down once I started. If you are curious about the Spanish Flu and the 1918 Pandemic, this book is must read.

ASIN ‏ : ‎ B079LB96CJ
Publisher ‏ : ‎ St. Martin’s Press, August 28, 2018